Ok, I see what you are referencing. I like some of the things Milo says too (some...not all)--and I would agree that a "cyber touch" should not be equated to a real world physical touch, especially to "legitimize the real violence (legal or physical) the left inflicts on those that disagree". So yes, perhaps people can just click out.
However, the conversation here--what this thread is about--is to consider ways to get people to "click in". While excluding reasons for them to click out might be part of that discussion, there is room for thought as part of the rest of this... "set".
It is also true people are experiencing very real violence against them due to identity politics, but that is no good reason to stymie discussion for greater inclusion, especially in arenas that are actively seeking it--like the music industry, music tech industry, and OP (to bring it to the human level).
And even if it's not a "problem"--so to address your concern of false problematization (and I'm not saying it's not, I'm just trying to draw out the fallacy), members of the community are seeking this out....just as you might seek out another distortion pedal even if yours works just fine.
Because "someone has it worse" isn't a good argument.
(And I'm glad no one has excluded you from an event you wanted to attend--because it's nice to feel welcomed! We're social animals after all, so feelings of exclusion/inclusion effect us in our daily lives, in our creativity, development (professional and personal) and health)