I made an Ableton thing once and that experience convinced me I would not do it again.
This does not feel like a large enough sample size - one experience of a tool - to be enough to convince you it’s a bad tool, and more pertinently, to suggest to others that it’s a bad tool. The range of music being made with in the world would also seem to disprove your point.
(I mean, at the moment, my primary use of it is firing it up, opening up an audio channel, and recording into it, which feels pretty far from the “presets!!1” one-liner you have offered up as a reason not to use it).
A thing I’m thinking about a lot at the moment: people are much quicker to dismiss software than they are other things; we expect our 10,000 hours for mastering a guitar, but after a few hours with a plugin it’s dismissed as being ‘good for one thing’, or, more likely, not dismissed but replaced by another plugin. I am bad at this too - the easy availability does not help - but sometimes, the answer to asking myself “why isn’t this right yet?” is often “how long have you been learning it?”
At the moment, there are few tools I know backwards enough to make certain recommendations of them to other people, and the ones I do, I’m pretty sure can be coerced into doing almost anything.
Given that: yes, really, practice is a thing that can be done in the studio/electronic environment. Your ear can be trained; your hands can learn; you can shorten the path between thought and action. Yes, time is a hard master. I feel like the only answers I have to @itssowindy’s questions are “yes, all of the above”, and “yup, I’m finding it hard too.”