I also replied to you directly, but this deserves to be clarified now that it’s public.
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Flags are private. They are not seen by other members. Only the flagging member, the author of the post, and the moderators can see that is it flagged. And any action taken is private until someone chooses to speak about it.
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I am revising my reply, because apparently people can see that a post has been flagged, but not for what reason or by whom.
We do not condone public shaming, and have removed many posts because of it.
As I said in my direct message, we are not pretending to be anything. We are a group of humans who want to make a nice place to hang out and have conversations. Being humans, we’re fallible and imperfect, so we try our best but sometimes it isn’t quite right the first time. We aim to help foster a community that is inclusive of people who are often excluded from online and in-person communities for various reasons, so sometimes we are a little more heavy handed with moderation than other forums. But it’s always a discussion and with the best intentions, and done in good faith.