My Build notes:
Make sure your header pins are soldered well. I was pretty happy with them initially but then due to issues mentioned below I put it under the inspection microscope and ended up reflowing half a dozen joints.
The plastic for the pins in the screen melts very easy and the pins will wobble a little, so go quick and lightly and don’t be too alarmed. I’ve not had this issue soldering many Arduino mini’s this way…
Yes, there should be a gap in the display header when mounted, it does not go flush like the Pi header.
Use the right image for your Pi. Don’t use the newer Rpi4b image on your Rpi3b, the display will not work! 
I’ve also noticed my RPi3b makes a whining noise when powered via the fates USBc, it’s got a little better with use. Has anyone else noticed this? Is there any part of the RPi I should check under the scope?