I don’t think it’s all in. I do think that it adds additional depth to how we understand how our societies treat people.
I may have meant “and”, in that it does both at once - sometimes in directly related ways, but sometimes not.
I meant that I don’t see it as zero-sum because it doesn’t have to be like this, there’s nothing inherent that makes our societies biased in these ways. It is in existing power structures and history that this happens. People work to maintain these powers in explicit and implicit ways. For me, understanding concepts like privilege has helped me lessen my implicit support for these structures by making me more aware of them and how they effect us.
These terms are not helpful when they are used to label people. They are helpful when we can use them to understand the inner workings and biases of how we live, relate to each other, understand experiences different from our own, and see how systems are biased.
There are people so invested the status quo that changing their mind will take so long, and so much work, that we just need to change regardless. Trump/Brexit et al are a defensive reaction to changes in the world that are upsetting status quo power structures. These changes are going to happen one way or another, some of them are positive and some of them are not, or have the potential to be harmful to lots of people.
I also feel that the concern for alienating or offending people is generally biased. A lot of the “new” terms are meant to help include and understand experiences and stories from groups of people who have been excluded from our cultural discourse for generations. Adding these ideas to our world view is not about excluding a different group, but instead about broadening our understanding. I guess I feel that if the idea of systemic privilege is alienating to someone, then they need to think hard about the society that we live in and how people are treated in it.
I also think that the media is done a lot of disservice to these ideas in the way they talk about them… and that some media outlets (i.e. Fox) have intentionally misrepresented the ideas and the people who espouse them for their own gain.
So yes, it can be alienating if you are the one being challenged to see the world in a new way. And the concepts can be complex. But I think it’s part of a larger change that needs to happen, even though it’ll be rocky and difficult and probably cause friction (or worse). Big changes to world view have never happened easily.