I still feel uncomfortable with the merging, splitting and renaming policy and I fear its not leading to something good. So I want to word my concerns here.
There was a thread about the recent downfall and the monetary issues of the Muff Wiggler forum. Then after more than hundred posts have been made it was renamed, then splitted. There are several things leaving a sour taste for formal, political and simply for human reasons.
So, I found an automatic splitting notification which leads me to the original thread but not to where my post was moved to. Also there was no notification how the new thread is named, so I had to guess again what might have happened and where I was moved to and why. This really sucks.
I tried to comprehend what happened and it seemed to me that someOne asked for a “heavy hand” in moderation and then the split was done “as requested”. I find this highly dubious and irritating. Eventually this is antidemocratic and manipulating communication, which is even worse in this case where also a political discussion took place.
I found the new thread to be named RIP Mike McGrath . Of course I am not a native english speaker so I am not sure how this feels for you in the US but to me RIP sounds comic and cheap, somehow disrespectful as an abbreviation for a sleazy commemoration phrase. What is wrong with people who have to abbreviate their condolence? I usually do not post in threads named so for that reason and have seen far better fitting thread titles - how about a simple ‚Mike McGrath passed away‘“. It does not sound so much like "Um, if you have to post something about that guy, please drop it here…“.
Personally, after reading about Mikes death in that original thread I felt the need to express my feelings in the context of that very discussion. I am an adult and I considered if I find this appropriate just there and than tried to find some (few) words to express myself. Getting moved to a place where I would not have done this or to a context where I would have worded it differently is disrespectful.
What could have been a better solution? Communication is an unfolding process between people. Topics change over time and that’s a good thing - otherwise it would be pointless to speak to each other. Also this in this special case it wasn’t about some technical question that still have to be perfectly and presumably quick comprehensible over the next years. But when someone has the feeling it would be a good idea for clarity sake to partly move a discussion to a separate place - why not just opening a new thread and suggesting to carry on there without breaking things in parts. Everyone who then feels inclined to do so can copy own contributions there or leave it or rewrite something better fitting for the new context. Also in this case, why not simply moving the vital discussion about sexual oppression to a reasonable place instead of putting the answer to ‘what happens over at MW?’ and the emotional reaction aside? Now the discussion about sexism and who is more right takes place under the heading MW’s future uncertain …
I know that probably no one is trying to act evil here though I wonder if there is an American equivalent to the german saying "The opposite of good is good intentions“?
Peace
Sven