SO late to the party in this thread! Never done more than lurk on MW, but so glad I popped in here for a little read (That turned into a VERY long read).
I need to reply, because I QUIT FACEBOOK SUCCESSFULLY!!
There are a few forum-ish kind of websites that haven’t been attracted to despite their content that you’d think I’d love. MW and TalkBass come to mind. Someone above described the feeling as “Boys Club” but I think that more specifically than that, it’s the kind of presumption that everyone online is white, male, straight etc. A kind of Heteronormativity taken to the extreme (Is there a word for this?!)
Anyhow, some of the greatest websites I contribute to are curated by a diverse bunch of people. For example lines and Film Shooters Collective have women at the top of the organisation, so people who enjoy putting down women just aren’t going to engage.
Kind of reminds me of the whole Make Racists Afraid Again thing.
Unfortunately, every man knows another man that has seemed a lovely human being, until it’s only men around, and then they turn into some kind of strange stereotype straight outta Mad Men.
ANYWAY FACEBOOK: I had to quit.
I just had to.
During the summer this year I was experiencing a terrible time with my anxiety and depression. I changed medication and things weren’t getting better. I was spending hours every day online, most of it on Facebook. I decided to start making small, sustainable changes to try and get hold of some “marginal gains”.
I stopped drinking alchohol.
I started running.
I stopped consuming artificial sweetners.
I started taking zinc.
I stopped eating meat.
I started taking pro biotics.
I sold a load of stuff that was making me miserable (notably most of my vintage camera collection) and…
I QUIT FACEBOOK.
I realise I’m in a very privileged position. I’m too busy with creative work to need the networking opportunity it afforded me. I have a great close friendship group that I don’t see enough of, so don’t feel I need to be on FB to avoid loneliness. Most of the people I want to engage with are on Twitter and Instagram anyway, and they’re much more manageable and less all-encompassing.
Anyhow, my mental health is now much better, and on the Facebook front I’ve found a new obsession to replace it:
JOMO - Joy Of Missing Out.