Let me clarify: I believe that people will be better or worse at certain things due to their experiences, knowledge, and what was reinforced to them. I do not believe that at any stage in your life you can achieve anything if you just work harder (though if you start early enough with sufficient singular drive you can go a very long way). I also do not believe you are solely responsible for the talent you attain; my point is that I don’t think it’s something you were born with.
At a very young age (likely before you have any memory) I don’t think you have the ability to express any talent or aptitude; this doesn’t stop those around you ascribing talent to the things you do (in the same way as dressing a baby in traditionally male or female clothing affects how their behaviour is described); That is to say, those around you project onto you. For a very young child, positive reinforcement from parents (or anyone acting in that capacity) is a huge driving force for development. This means that the (spuriously) ascribed talent gets reinforced. In other words, by the time you have a capacity to decide, an aptitude was already built which self reinforces. The same can be true in the opposite direction: a belief in a lack of talent can develop which may equally inhibit growth. In either case I don’t think the ability or inability was innate, but it was developed by those around you, outside of your control. This may only be a semantic difference in practise but in terms of thinking about child development, I think it matters a lot.
As for talent revealed/developed at an older age, my general feeling and observation is this. The fundamentals of a talent do not lie solely in the doing of that thing, but also in how you apply other knowledge and experience. This can be a mental model, an approach to learning, a practical prior skill or just about anything. Personally I love learning new things, and the feeling of being a beginner. The result is that I swap between interests yearly (alongside long standing ones) and feel that I become adept more quickly each time around, meaning I’m less likely to feel like I should cut my losses. In the long term though, for skills I stick to longer term my development is controlled by commitment more than anything else, and commitment is controlled by how strongly I feel about it. For things I feel strongest about, practising ends up being something I do unquestioningly, it’s almost “part of me”. Again, this doesn’t mean I was born with it, but it’s part of who I am today.
I concur with your statement on talentless as a negative sounding phrase: choice of words matters a lot. I don’t think it’s intended to mean “generally talentless” but rather lacking in refined skill in a particular domain. Moreover it’s intended to make a core point: you don’t have to aspire for greatness in everything you do; it is okay to do some things just because you enjoy them.
Anyway, I think I’m perhaps diluting the thread with this talk of child development so I shall take a step back. Thanks for your response and sharing your perspective with me.